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“I need you to explain this to me, please”

May 21, 20215 min read

“I need you to explain this to me, please”

It was the worst thing I’ve ever heard: a recording of a 911 call a woman made just as a man attacked her with a knife in her living room.

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How you can (both!) win the expectations game

Mira Kirshenbaum

May 18, 20214 min read

How you can (both!) win the expectations game

People’s experience of marriage is too often that it’s a series of broken promises, big and small. Why?

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Mira Kirshenbaum

May 15, 20214 min read

“Yes, you’ve heard me!!”

Last time we started talking about how it happens that we talk to our partners but don’t feel heard and what we can do about it.

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Taking the power dynamics out of your sexual relationship

Mira Kirshenbaum

May 9, 20214 min read

Taking the power dynamics out of your sexual relationship

The paradise of a sexual relationship is one of wordless mutuality.

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Who’s got the power in your sexual relationship?

Mira Kirshenbaum

May 6, 20213 min read

Who’s got the power in your sexual relationship?

For many of us, sex is more about power than about sex.

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It’s splitsville for the Gates’: what this means for you

Mira Kirshenbaum

May 4, 20213 min read

It’s splitsville for the Gates’: what this means for you

I know what you’re asking. “How could the sudden announcement that Bill and Melinda Gates are getting divorced have anything to do with me?”

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How to make your relationship survive your differences

Mira Kirshenbaum

Apr 27, 20215 min read

How to make your relationship survive your differences

Our life’s work has been to put ourselves out of business. Hasn’t worked so far, but as you can see, we’re still in there punching.

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Can your relationship survive your differences?

Mira Kirshenbaum

Apr 24, 20214 min read

Can your relationship survive your differences?

If you want to get right into the guts of how relationships really work, you have to understand the role differences play.

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Mira Kirshenbaum

Apr 19, 20213 min read

Something just happened in my marriage

About a week ago my husband said he wanted to talk to me about something. Yeah, it was one of those, “We need to talk,” moments.

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Should I hate the advice in my own book?

Mira Kirshenbaum

Apr 17, 20215 min read

Should I hate the advice in my own book?

I never liked Daniel Goleman’s Emotional Intelligence, now twenty-five years old. I should have. What’s not to like?

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Emergency! You just screwed up! What do you do now!!

Mira Kirshenbaum

Apr 14, 20214 min read

Emergency! You just screwed up! What do you do now!!

“You always hurt the one you love” is more than just a number 1 Billboard hit for the Mills Brothers in 1944. It’s a sad fact of life.

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You fall out of like before you fall out of love

Mira Kirshenbaum

Apr 13, 20213 min read

You fall out of like before you fall out of love

When it comes to relationships, liking and disliking is a way more potent force than loving and not loving.

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Making love come alive in your relationship

Mira Kirshenbaum

Apr 10, 20213 min read

Making love come alive in your relationship

That’s what I want to do now: get you inspired, fired up, around the idea of bringing the love back into your relationship.

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Mira Kirshenbaum

Apr 8, 20215 min read

Is your partner a power person?

What is a Power Person? Well, a Power Person is not just a powerful person.

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It’s up to you: do you want to say something momentarily gratifying or genuinely useful?

Mira Kirshenbaum

Apr 6, 20214 min read

It’s up to you: do you want to say something momentarily gratifying or genuinely useful?

What we call “giving someone a piece of our mind” is really just a power move.

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You think your partner’s just too powerful for you. Now what?

Mira Kirshenbaum

Apr 3, 20214 min read

You think your partner’s just too powerful for you. Now what?

There are three kinds of power advantages a person can have, and each involves its own solutions.

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What was killing all those women during childbirth?

Mira Kirshenbaum

Apr 1, 20214 min read

What was killing all those women during childbirth?

I don’t know anything about his bedside manner, but no doctor was more dedicated to saving women’s lives than Ignaz Semmelweis.

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Who gets the scarce resources in your relationship?

Mira Kirshenbaum

Mar 30, 20214 min read

Who gets the scarce resources in your relationship?

A super-rich older a**hole digs up a soon-to-be aging model and proposes a prenup...I mean, a marriage to her.

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Mira Kirshenbaum

Mar 27, 20213 min read

On loving better

There is nothing sexier, more romantic, more endearing than making your partner feel you’ve really heard them.

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Mira Kirshenbaum

Mar 24, 20214 min read

The Learning Self

We can heal ourselves. We do that all the time. We do that through our body’s immune system. What’s more, the immune system can learn.

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